Licensed, At Last

We were notified on Wednesday, April 25 at 2:05 pm that we were officially licensed! The call came from a lady who has years of experience being a foster parent and is now our foster parent mentor. Jesse actually did a loud “wooohooo!” on the phone to her when she called. By that time I was pretty sure I knew what the call was about.

Side note: We have to be very careful about sharing any personal information about “our” kids. We are allowed to share only very general facts and absolutely no pictures. Which is really a bummer because our first two little boys are just as cute as can be… you’ll have to take our word for it!

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We had been told to expect a call for our first placement very soon after we are licensed. And they weren’t kidding! We got a call just a few hours later and were asked to accept a little boy who was twenty months old. He was adorable! He had the best little smile and laugh. We were able to love on him less than twenty four hours before he was cleared to go back home.

We felt very good about how handled our first little one. At first he was completely silent, obviously scared to death, when he arrived at our house just after midnight. He got more and more comfortable as the next day went on. We kept him entertained and laughing, we fed him three super healthy meals which he gobbled right up, and held him close all day. His care manager came to pick him up just after dinner.

Funny story about our dinner with him… We fed him peas with dinner that night. Apparently he didn’t like peas. After trying one he started handing them to Jesse one by one. At first we thought he was being nice and sharing so Jesse kept saying thank you. Then we realized that he planned on handing us all them since he didn’t want them. When we just took the peas away he said thank you. So cute!

Even before our first little boy had left our house, we got a call to accept our second placement who was to arrive later that same day. A couple of hours later we welcomed another little boy who is two and a half years old. He is expected to stay with us for several months, but we never know for sure. We are loving each day that we get to spend with him. We definitely underestimated the amount of energy required to take care of this little man, so we are still working on figuring out how our new routine will go.

This little one loves to eat! So far we’ve only found one food that he doesn’t like… cucumbers. I had a bunch on his plate at lunch the other day. He kept going back and trying them, forgetting that he didn’t want them… and making a yucky face each time. He tried them at least four times so I know he really didn’t like them. The other surprising thing is how much he loves broccoli, he keeps asking for more when we have it. I love how easy he is to feed since he is more than willing to eat whatever we are eating. He is also super helpful too. He has made himself in charge of throwing away little pieces of trash while I’m cooking and loves to close every kitchen cabinet, pantry, fridge, or other door when we are finished with it.

Funny story about this little one… We are very amused by how much he loves to imitate every little thing we do. Since we’ve been spending more time outside now than we used to, I’ve been blowing my allergy nose more often. After watching me do that, he now loves to blow his nose too. He will go to the table, grab a kleenex, rub his nose, look at it and say “oooh, essussing!” (disgusting), and then run to the kitchen and throw it away. I guess I must make an essussing face when I blow my nose.

We are loving having him here, for sure!

Foster Care Update: Safety Plan

Earlier this week we received the great news that our agency had approved our file and had passed it along to county for final approval. We were told it might even be possible that we would be approved by the end of the week! Then on Friday we heard back from the county that they had a problem with the safety plan that was written in our home study.

Our agency called to say that the county wanted us to fence in our yard to ensure safety from the retention pond behind our home. The only problem is that since we live in a townhome, we don’t actually own any of the yard behind our house. In fact, the area behind our house is designated as a wildlife preserve and no one should ever be able to build anything back there. That’s actually one of the reasons we liked this property so much was that we were guaranteed to have that open space and not have to look into the back of another house.

pond

The county said that we needed proof that we were not allowed to build a fence. Our first thought was to get some type of letter from our homeowner’s association. The only problem with that idea was that it would take up to thirty days to get an answer and we had only a few hours otherwise the county would reject our file and send it back. The best I could do with that time frame was to print our property value off of the county website, which shows that we have a zero lot line.

We were able to get that submitted in time, and we hope that will be sufficient evidence. We’re not sure what options we would have if they insist on a fence… since we can’t have one. Our agent also elaborated on all the locks we already have in place to prevent a child from getting to the pond. Our sliding doors have a double lock which both have to be turned to open the door, plus we have flip latches at the top and bottom of each of the doors, plus the alarm system chimes whenever any door of the house is opened, plus there is a lock on the screen door of the patio. We would have to seriously not be watching the child for them to get through all of that without us noticing.

Patio locks

The other suggestions by our agency was to take out the screen door leading off of the patio to the yard, which would mean there would be no exit out of that side of our house. Or they suggested some type of key lock attached to the top of the sliding doors leading to the patio. We are trying to insist that either of these options would compromise our fire safety plan that they made us draw up which required two emergency exits from our house. I think that side of the house is as locked as it can be to still be a reasonable exit in the case of a fire.

Needless to say, Friday was a rather stressful day. We got everything turned in the best that we could do under the time frame, and didn’t hear anything back for the rest of the day. So we have had to sit all weekend with not knowing how it will turn out. Hopefully, we will hear some good news in the next day or so.

Project: Kid’s Room

We are getting SO close to being done with the licensing process. Today we actually emailed our final signatures on our home study! We had made some minor changes over the weekend, such as correcting my favorite subject in school from History to Math. Yes, the questions were that detailed when we were interviewed. Our agent is waiting on a response from our last neighbor reference and then we should be completely done. We are so excited, we can’t wait!

Our final decision on our age range is 0-3 years old. We chose that because we felt like we weren’t ready to deal with a school aged child and have to figure out bus schedules, teachers, and homework. If we were to get placed with three year old we would at least have a year or two before having to learn about that, if we had them for that long.

Even though we are hoping to get a baby, we really wanted to have our third bedroom completed in case they are too big for the nursery. Plus we eventually would be open to a sibling group once we get in some practice. Our third bedroom used to be our guest room. Much of what was in there stayed the same, but I tried to add some fun, kid touches.

Before: Plain guest room…

guest beddresser

After: Rearranged kid room…

Before paint

And of course, being me, I had the entire room set up before I decided that I should paint it. We had been going back and forth on whether or not to paint in there forever. Finally, I got a crazy idea one day and decided I would paint tomorrow! Jesse has been slammed with work over the last couple of months so I knew I was on my own if I was going to do it. My last painting project resulted in Jesse having to help me finish on the second painting day. Since I couldn’t ask him to stop working, I decided it was best to do both coats of paint in one LONG day… that way I wouldn’t have time to realize how sore and tired I was between coats. Good choice because I could barely move the next morning. My hands were so swollen that my wedding ring wouldn’t fit my finger for a couple of days. It was worth it though… all the holes and scuff marks are covered up. It looks so much better and more finished.

Doorway leftDoorway right

So far the room is filled with little things we had stored in the garage from when we were kids (a great reason never to get rid of stuff), and some of the garage sale finds I’ve been collecting. We wanted to keep it gender neutral and leave it mostly plain so that the child can help decorate with their own interests if they want to. It’s funny because as kids Ashley and I shared a room decorated with balloons and that’s what we happened to find at a garage sale.

DresserPicture frameToy shelfDesk hutchDesk chairMatching stool

So, there you have it. Two bedrooms ready and waiting to be filled with a foster child. What do you think?