Foster Care Update: Safety Plan

Earlier this week we received the great news that our agency had approved our file and had passed it along to county for final approval. We were told it might even be possible that we would be approved by the end of the week! Then on Friday we heard back from the county that they had a problem with the safety plan that was written in our home study.

Our agency called to say that the county wanted us to fence in our yard to ensure safety from the retention pond behind our home. The only problem is that since we live in a townhome, we don’t actually own any of the yard behind our house. In fact, the area behind our house is designated as a wildlife preserve and no one should ever be able to build anything back there. That’s actually one of the reasons we liked this property so much was that we were guaranteed to have that open space and not have to look into the back of another house.

pond

The county said that we needed proof that we were not allowed to build a fence. Our first thought was to get some type of letter from our homeowner’s association. The only problem with that idea was that it would take up to thirty days to get an answer and we had only a few hours otherwise the county would reject our file and send it back. The best I could do with that time frame was to print our property value off of the county website, which shows that we have a zero lot line.

We were able to get that submitted in time, and we hope that will be sufficient evidence. We’re not sure what options we would have if they insist on a fence… since we can’t have one. Our agent also elaborated on all the locks we already have in place to prevent a child from getting to the pond. Our sliding doors have a double lock which both have to be turned to open the door, plus we have flip latches at the top and bottom of each of the doors, plus the alarm system chimes whenever any door of the house is opened, plus there is a lock on the screen door of the patio. We would have to seriously not be watching the child for them to get through all of that without us noticing.

Patio locks

The other suggestions by our agency was to take out the screen door leading off of the patio to the yard, which would mean there would be no exit out of that side of our house. Or they suggested some type of key lock attached to the top of the sliding doors leading to the patio. We are trying to insist that either of these options would compromise our fire safety plan that they made us draw up which required two emergency exits from our house. I think that side of the house is as locked as it can be to still be a reasonable exit in the case of a fire.

Needless to say, Friday was a rather stressful day. We got everything turned in the best that we could do under the time frame, and didn’t hear anything back for the rest of the day. So we have had to sit all weekend with not knowing how it will turn out. Hopefully, we will hear some good news in the next day or so.

Easter Sunday Recap

We had a fabulous Easter filled with family and friends. Our family enjoyed our Sunday morning church celebration of our risen King! Later we enjoyed the company of some out of town friends who are visiting Tampa on spring break! We had a great, relaxing day of hanging out together.

He is risen

Since we usually spend most holidays at my parents house, they offered that our friends would be more than welcome to join us. Mom and I spent time on Saturday preparing food for everyone. We may have gone just a little overboard on the dessert table, but we couldn’t help it… they were just so much fun to make!

Dessert table

Of course, we had Mom’s famous bunny cake! I took pictures of her making it, so there will be directions to come. It’s just not Easter without bunny cake.

Easter bunny cakeEaster bunny

Mom make a lemon meringue pie as her dessert of choice. I really wish it didn’t have so many ingredients I was allergic to… yum!

Lemon pie

We made lots of cupcakes! We decorated them with Easter grass, nests, and eggs. And we made mini cupcakes… because they are cute, with multi-colored icing.

CupcakesMini cupcakes

There was tons of candy. Mom got creative on how to serve it all.

Jelly beans

And I made my allergy-safe brownies for myself.

Brownies

We had plenty of real food too, but somehow sandwiches and veggies don’t photograph as cute as cupcakes.

Real foodSandwichesFruits and veggies

We visited with Rhonda in the beautiful weather while the kids made good use of the swimming pool. The pool kept their interest the entire day and they only stopped swimming long enough to eat. I’m so glad they had a good time.

Madi floatingShelbyShelby splashingIan and MadiIan jumpingIan in splashMadisonMadison

Tonight Rhonda and I are heading out to dinner with the rest of the Tampa CF wives (her husband also has CF)! She’s taking her older kids to the movies and Jesse agreed to watch Madison while we are gone. Rhonda says trying to keep up with her will be good practice for him. Madison is just as CUTE as can be and Jesse is looking forward to the challenge.

Project: Kid’s Room

We are getting SO close to being done with the licensing process. Today we actually emailed our final signatures on our home study! We had made some minor changes over the weekend, such as correcting my favorite subject in school from History to Math. Yes, the questions were that detailed when we were interviewed. Our agent is waiting on a response from our last neighbor reference and then we should be completely done. We are so excited, we can’t wait!

Our final decision on our age range is 0-3 years old. We chose that because we felt like we weren’t ready to deal with a school aged child and have to figure out bus schedules, teachers, and homework. If we were to get placed with three year old we would at least have a year or two before having to learn about that, if we had them for that long.

Even though we are hoping to get a baby, we really wanted to have our third bedroom completed in case they are too big for the nursery. Plus we eventually would be open to a sibling group once we get in some practice. Our third bedroom used to be our guest room. Much of what was in there stayed the same, but I tried to add some fun, kid touches.

Before: Plain guest room…

guest beddresser

After: Rearranged kid room…

Before paint

And of course, being me, I had the entire room set up before I decided that I should paint it. We had been going back and forth on whether or not to paint in there forever. Finally, I got a crazy idea one day and decided I would paint tomorrow! Jesse has been slammed with work over the last couple of months so I knew I was on my own if I was going to do it. My last painting project resulted in Jesse having to help me finish on the second painting day. Since I couldn’t ask him to stop working, I decided it was best to do both coats of paint in one LONG day… that way I wouldn’t have time to realize how sore and tired I was between coats. Good choice because I could barely move the next morning. My hands were so swollen that my wedding ring wouldn’t fit my finger for a couple of days. It was worth it though… all the holes and scuff marks are covered up. It looks so much better and more finished.

Doorway leftDoorway right

So far the room is filled with little things we had stored in the garage from when we were kids (a great reason never to get rid of stuff), and some of the garage sale finds I’ve been collecting. We wanted to keep it gender neutral and leave it mostly plain so that the child can help decorate with their own interests if they want to. It’s funny because as kids Ashley and I shared a room decorated with balloons and that’s what we happened to find at a garage sale.

DresserPicture frameToy shelfDesk hutchDesk chairMatching stool

So, there you have it. Two bedrooms ready and waiting to be filled with a foster child. What do you think?